Why Jesus Loves Me Matters to My Marriage

Author

Brianna R Wasson
November 15, 2010

“True servants are selfless only after they realize the incredible value that God has given them and those around them.  They no longer have to justify their existence or prove their worth.  They are free to serve, knowing that God has already settled the matter.  An understanding and acceptance of self-esteem is essential to developing a healthy and intimate relationship.  Depending on others to determine my worth creates a dependency that saps the strength out of any intimate relationship.  In fact, it makes being vulnerable almost unbearable.  If I give my husband the role of determining how valuable I am, then he can potentially destroy me.  If I have accepted my worth based on my relationship with God, I can be vulnerable to sharing myself with my husband.  His rejection will hurt, but it does not threaten my emotional survival.  This allows me to serve my husband without depending on his reaction to validate my own worth.”      

Dr. Julianna Slattery in Finding the Hero in Your Husband

The truth is: the worth of a person comes from God alone, not from a husband or a wife.  God made each one of us in His very image.  He created, carefully and thoughtfully, every single strand of every single fiber of each one of our beings.  God Himself.  And THAT is what makes us valuable.  Worthy of respect.  You.  Me.

The truth is: God spoke our very worth in the Word, who He gave for every single one of us.  We are worth that much to Him.  The very life of His Son, Jesus Christ.

And so: we are free to serve without the weight of wondering if it’s enough to validate our worth.  And we’re free to love and accept love in our marriages because, while our husbands can certianly hurt our feelings, our emotional survival does not depend on their accepting or rejecting us.  And our husbands are free to love us without feeling the pressure of having to satisfy our every need, because some of those needs were never meant to be met by them.

“Jesus love me, this I know.  For the Bible tells me so.  Little ones to Him belong.  They are weak, but He is strong.  Yes, Jesus love me.  Yes, Jesus love me.  Yes, Jesus loves me.  The Bible tells me so.” 

It’s Vigilant Wives Club Monday, where we focus on our serving our husbands and being the Godly wives that we are called to be.  Join the discussion here in the comments and let us know how God is using you in your marriage.